Although I hear all the time just how lucky I am to stay at home with my kids and yes that I am, it doesn’t mean it’s always easy and enjoyable.
Your needed 24/7
It doesn’t matter if you have one, two or 4 kids you will constantly be needed 24/7 while one is napping the other is bored, although you just set up a toy that takes forever to set up it’s only good enough for 5 minutes and they don’t want it anymore, you want to sit down for 5 minutes watch a show or check up on Facebook, ya right, your kid knows you just sat down and now they want a snack or a drink. Nice try mom! If something goes wrong with the kid they will come to mom EVERY SINGLE TIME, Daddy can’t kiss a boo boo like mommy can, this is truly a 24 hour job.
Is it really enough?
Although everyday all day your busting your butt cleaning, cooking, playing, bathing, and doing whatever it takes to keep the kids alive and healthy and a nice household for your family, it never feels like enough, your not bringing in any money your just there to do “what your supposed to do” but unless your a full time stay at home mom you will never understand how crappy that actually feels to not be contributing financially, especially when you used to work a lot and got to understand what it felt like to bring in some extra income to help with the finances. But remember what your doing DOES matter, and IS important because if you weren’t there to do it, who would?
Being stuck at home
Where I live the winters are insane, if it’s not -50 there is to much snow to leave, having two young kids is not an easy task to take them out alone, I get so jealous of the moms I see walking around the grocery store all by themselves enjoying their peace and quiet and alone time even if it’s just for half an hour. Pinterest is a great tool for finding different activities to do inside but even those get old sometimes because sometimes you just don’t want the extra mess.
The need for adult interaction
Being a stay at home mom means a serious lack of adult interaction, your with the kids all the time it’s the only interaction you have, it’s amazing you even remember how to have a conversation with adults when you do get the chance. Your husband is your relief when he gets home from work but he’s tired from working all week and just wants to relax and sleep, so thank goodness for playdates, being a 24 year old mom with 2 kids isn’t always easy because half your friends aren’t even close to settling down yet and would rather party or just do things realistically you can’t do with two young kids, but let’s be real when you do have play dates you mainly talk about the kids, but it is better then nothing!
But of course there is benefits!
There really are many benefits of being a stay at home mom and the main one for me is I will be there for their firsts, the first time they giggle, roll over, crawl, stand, walk etc. You get to be the one to give them their first hug and say congrats good job, the one to see their face and how proud they are for what they just did and to me there is nothing I would rather do more then be able to be there for my children and their firsts. When they grow up and become independent we can feel some sort of accomplishment knowing we took part of helping them become decent human beings.
Although everyday is different and some you are just ready to throw in the towel if you have to listen to one more cry or deal with the temper tantrums, or try to understand why they can’t ever ask their dad to play with them and get them a snack, to just feel so helpless like it doesn’t matter what you do it will never be good enough. But it is good enough, your kids are thankful, you are their world and that’s what matters. Like you have heard millions of times they are only young once so enjoy it while you can no matter how tired you get!!